Thursday, May 8, 2014

I'm worth it.









These are just some examples of the awesome people I've encountered on two different dating apps. Here's the thing: I'm not asking for anything extraordinary. I don't want someone to open the door for me every time; in fact, it makes me feel awkward. I'm not looking for someone with six pack abs and *has* to go to the gym everyday.  I think what I want is rational and reasonable. Why does anyone think it's ok to talk to someone like any of those above instances?

Here's what I know:

I'm a single mom. I have been since day 1. Sure, I've had two little sprinkles of relationships over the past 7 years but for the majority of it, I've been single.  However, I think becoming a mom has made me a better person and ultimately a better partner for someone. I have a past with a few of those 'crazy' relatives but who doesn't?  I 've been to school,  I have a job, I support myself. I'd expect the same of you.  I can take care of myself and I don't particularly need anyone to make me feel safe but would that be nice? Sure.  It'd be nice to feel loved, wanted, and appreciated.  I do love romantic comedies so someone will have to endure the occasional chick-flick. I also hate whistling... so please stop. My music will always be better than yours but I'll go to a show with you if you want me to as long as you realize you'll come more Butch Walker shows than you can count. You'll also have to listen to me talk about how beautiful he is. Just remember, I'm faithful, devoted, and when I'm in? I'm in. I love fiercely and if I see something that reminds me of you, I will buy it. I don't expect anything in return. I don't like drinking in front of my child and I'd appreciate the same of you. Remember that he comes first. He will always be my number one. I can't go places at the drop of a hat. I'm a planner. I have to be.  Surprise me. Wouldn't that be nice?  I'm not a flowers and chocolate girl... write me a note.  I lasts longer. Romance makes me nervous but change my mind. I have a hard time showing emotion. Be patient. 

I'm worth it.